We all have within us what’s commonly referred to as our Inner Critic. It’s that voice that constantly puts us down, belittles our efforts to do anything meaningful, and constantly tries to sabotage our happiness.
Our inner critic can be devious, destructive, cruel and stab us where it hurts most, because it knows us better than anyone else.
That’s because it is us, it’s an integral part of our make up.
Most of us try to deal with our inner critic by blocking it out, denying it’s there, seeing it as some dark demon of the night that we hope will leave us alone if we stick to what’s safe and don’t try to achieve too much or be too creative, or too happy.
Giving our critics this power, this monstrous manifestation, only amplifies their hold over us, and the fear they stir within us.
What if there was a different approach? Or, put another way, what if your inner critic wasn’t the evil ogre you make it out to be?
What if, like the Wizard of Oz, after all he wasn’t quite what he seemed?
What if, actually, your inner critic was a rather hopeless man called Bob?
Who was balding, and overweight, with bad breath, and the charm and social aptitude of a rotting cabbage?
As soon as you give your inner critic a persona, an identity – and most crucially one that is very far removed from anything scary or powerful – you completely disarm it.
Suddenly it’s not quite so terrifying after all.
Going further, why not give your inner “Bob” a voice as well. A voice so silly you can’t possibly take anything he says seriously or with any kind of gravity.
Even if you do this exercise just once, it will change the way you see your inner critic, and lessen its impact.
Do it every time your critic chimes in with a new piece of negativity and very soon he’ll virtually give up. He’ll be laughed right out of your mind! Almost.
The danger always with your inner critic is they can return when you least expect it. There’s no way to eliminate it forever, only to vastly reduce its power and influence.
So stay vigilant, and when you start to hear that little voice again, remember to give it some ridiculous persona and a silly voice. You’ll never be so in fear of your inner critic again…
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