How To Not Worry About What Others Think Of You And Do What Matters

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Imagine you were confident in yourself enough to do whatever you wanted. To have that inner belief to follow your instinct and passions, and do what you know you need to do, without worrying about what other might think of you.

It’s a very liberating thought.

Personally this is something I struggle with. I have a dichotomy where on one hand I feel different and unique and want to do amazing things in my life, pioneer in ways that have never been seen before, both as a writer, and as a Creativity Coach, and positively affect the lives of thousands.

But I also want a quiet, undisturbed life in the country, I want to be liked, I’m often very sensitive at hearing criticism, and I hate upsetting anyone!

These two aren’t compatible, at least not at their extreme poles. You cannot be a fearless leader and at the same time never risk saying a word that might upset people, or that many might strongly disagree with.

I believe there is a happy medium though.

There are ways to quietly, steadily further the life that you believe strongly in, whilst being compassionate, open to advice and retaining humility.

Each of us have to decide where this balance lies of course. But don’t let fears of what others might think of you or say about you come in the way of what you’re strongly drawn to do, what you feel you are called to do, creatively and otherwise.

As well as developing a robust inner belief and confidence, what helps an immeasurable amount is to find the people that are like you, the people who believe in the same kind of things you’re doing, the people that believe in you.

A decade ago it was difficult to find people in your local area that were into the same interests you were. We would make friends with the people who were geographically close to us, almost by default, rather than seeking out those who were most like us.

These days there’s a community online for absolutely everything. In fact, whatever your interest and passions, there are likely to be dozens, if not hundreds or thousands of sites and groups that you can be a part of.

Once you have that community, once you’ve found your tribe, following the path that’s most important to you becomes so much easier.

This is because:

1. Other people are following similar paths and helping you see it’s ok to do so yourself, so you feel less scared and isolated, and

2. Other people will be happy to support you in pursuing your own ambitions, because you’ll inspire them as much as they inspire you. It works both ways.

So, what communities and tribes are you a part of, online or offline, that help support you in creating the life you want?

If you’re not involved with any, you’re missing out on a massive source of support, and probably feel most of the time you’re creating in a void, completely alone.

Explore a few communities today, be brave and reach out. Remember your input is as valuable, if not more valuable, as the support you’ll receive.

With this support, with your tribe onside, you’ll find you worry less and less about what others think, and get on with doing what really matters. Which is great news for all of us.

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4 thoughts on “How To Not Worry About What Others Think Of You And Do What Matters”

  1. So true about “geographic friends” by default. So many of my co-workers and classmates that I considered friends, I really had little in common with. On one level it’s Ok, but there is a definite void. It’s nice to find Coachcreativespace and other artistic sites, where you can interact with like minds and not feel like such an outsider.


  2. Yes, I think this is why things like School Reunions hold such dread for so many people. They think “hang on I didn’t have anything in common with these people in school, except we went to the same school, why would I want to see them again now?!”

    The internet is such a blessing to so many these days. CoachCreativeSpace is an example like you say, there are people on there for whom it is a major creative lifeline, and simply don’t have any creative people close to them in their offline world.

    Thanks for your post Diane.


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