Most of us here have fairly good, contended lives overall. We may not be living life to its fullest at every last waking moment, but we have plenty to be thankful for, and are surrounded by supportive, encouraging people who love us.
Once in a while, amongst these really quite pleasant lives of ours, we’ll be hit with a moment or two or utter amazingness.
It might be a person we meet, a book we discover, a place we visit, a meal we have. It suddenly shoots us to great new heights, and we feel “Wow, I’ve never experienced anything like THIS before. Now this is more like how life SHOULD be”.
Then, more often than not, the high passes and we slip back to our mild contentedness and go about our days.
The danger is, that now we’ve had this little taste of something amazing, we’re bound to want more. It’s human nature. And it makes everything else in life – things that were perfectly tolerable and ok before – seem a little duller, a little less fulfilling.
That glimpse of that widescreen technicolour stereo surround sound production means our everydays now seem more like watching a portable black and white TV with scratchy reception and only one speaker.
If you want to completely avoid this potential risk of unsettling your life, then it’s easy, just don’t ever try anything new or seek to meet anyone else. Your current state will be mostly preserved and you will go on being settled.
But most of aren’t happy with this. We’re restless, we’re curious, we want new adventure. It’s what we’re here for. Isn’t it?
So we seek, and find, these tiny mouthfuls of amazing, sometimes with intention, sometimes by accident. Then comes the question, what will we do with them? And how do we balance them with the times that are a little more ordinary?
Two approaches can be helpful here.
First, appreciate what you have.
You have so much more than the vast majority of the world’s population. Whatever new stuff you experience, remember to be thankful for all you have in your life already.
By taking this approach, you won’t feel that anything other than this new taste of something wonderful is a complete waste of your time and attention. There has to be balance, and if life was a permanent joyfest, it would become predictable, you wouldn’t appreciate it.
Second, build momentum in those amazing things.
Seek out more of them, a little at a time, building steadily. Whatever it is you find, there’s a danger of doing it so much you burn yourself out, or overdose.
Again, seek balance, and enjoy a range of different things. Do a little each day, let them become interwoven in your life. The more you do, the more you will draw further experiences like this to you.
Overall there’s no right answer, or perfect way. It’s down to each of us to seek what we feel is best. But don’t forget to be grateful for the mundane and the amazing, to build momentum, and to find your own balance.
When was the last time you had a tiny mouthful of amazing?
Did it unsettle you and leave you wanting more? Share your experiences in the comments below.
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