How To Stop Waiting For Superman And Become Your Own Superhero

“Tell everybody
Waitin’ for Superman
That they should try to hold on
Best they can…”

sings Wayne Coyne on The Flaming Lips track “Waitin’ For a Superman“.

And so often this is what we try to do, hold on hoping that someone, or something, will swoop down and save us, fix all our problems overnight so we can live happily ever after.

We don’t even need a fairy tale ending, sometimes we just want someone to take control of all that seems out of control, and tell us exactly what we should do to be happy with our lives. Is that too much to ask?

The reality is, that even though you may well have amazing friends and support around us, Superman, Wonder Woman, or any other superhero isn’t about to swoop down and save you. That’s the bad news.

The great news is you can be your OWN superhero. You can make yourself happy. You can save your own life.

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By recognising all the talents, skills and abilities you already have. And yes, you have them in abundance.

Before you start telling me how untalented or useless you are, consider these three questions to help you shine a light on your own superpowers:

1. What are your 3 greatest strengths or talents?

Don’t think just literally or creatively here, like “I’m good at drawing“, think about your talents across your whole life. For example you might be great at connecting people and bringing them together in social situations, you might be incredibly determined in the face of adversity, or a thousand other things. Pick the biggest three that first come to mind.

2. If I were to ask a couple of your closest friends, what would THEY tell me your greatest strengths or talents are?

There are common themes we always hear our friends say about us, like “You can do that, you have a great imagination”, or “As long as I’ve known you you’ve been a wonderful listener” and so on. Taking this step outside of yourself and considering what others recognise in you identifies the traits you might overlook and take for granted.

3. Which 3 achievements, creative or otherwise, are you most proud of in your life?

There will be some that stand out clearly when you cast your mind back across your life so far. Maybe they were particular occasions or events or moments, or maybe they were longer projects, like qualifying for a college course, or training for and completing a marathon event. Write down the 3 that ring out loudest.

Just by asking these three simple questions, you’ll unlock a whole host of superpowers and abilities that you either forgot you had, or overlooked.

It’s like going to wardrobe expecting to find it full of casual wear and seeing half of filled with multicoloured superhero capes and costumes!

These talents are still within you to call upon at any time.

Those achievements you’re so proud of you did then, and can do them, or reach even greater ones, again.

Stop waiting for a superman. You’re your own superhero. You can do anything. Get that cape on and fly!

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2 thoughts on “How To Stop Waiting For Superman And Become Your Own Superhero”

  1. Great post – it was nice to wake up a to positive post in my email inbox.

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